Women Do NOT Have Friends for Life; Men Have Guys they Know.

We profess love for our friends, but often what we think is “love” is not love, nor even true friendship

“…the love which sometimes exists between friends is not (true) love because it is subject to transmutation; this is merely fascination. This kind of love is originated by the accidental conditions of life. This is not love, it is merely acquaintanceship; it is subject to change. Today you will see two souls apparently in close friendship; tomorrow all this may be changed. This is not love; it is the yielding of the hearts to the accidents of life. When that which has caused this ‘love’ to exist passes, the love passes also; this is not real love.”  – Abdu’l-Baha

What we call love and unity are simply acquaintanceship and situational familiarity.

There is great wisdom in the advice, “Beware of those who would be your friends too soon.”

Oh how often indeed have I invested relationships with a depth that exists only in my own longing.

Children create imaginary friends. Adults create imaginary friendships.   Both reveal the tenacity of our human desire to connect and stay connected, even with those with whom the connections were, in the final analysis, ephemeral and fleeting.

What is the basis of lasting friendships?

Being worthy of the trust of others is the basis for all lasting friendships

 

 

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